The most critical concept in life is self-reliance. Emerson wrote a fantastic essay on the matter. A society that is politically correct harms one's personal growth. A man is revealed on how he reacts during difficulty. It is easy to be excellent in peaceful times.
Bad times have a scientific value. These are occasions a good learner would not miss. Ralph Waldo Emerson
I see that frequently. Instead of celebrating business greatness, some-investors opt to celebrate diversity before celebrating competence. One should be able to do both. It is not hard, but it is possible. Recently I have seen biases towards both ways. You shall never celebrate race or gender before competence.
Instead of conforming to social expectations, work on being a well-mannered misfit. Follow your voice rather than an intermediary while being honest with others.
When something adverse happens to you, connect with God and ask yourself: was this a product of my behavior? What could I have done to prevent it from happening? What is the best course of action? Know that you are not alone. Trust your inner voice.